As I prepare for my final visit to HC today, I am flooded with memories of my dad’s 5 plus years there. I remember how he told Alan and me how he went online and found Heritage Commons, and he wanted to check it out. We were dumbfounded, but that’s how he was – still independent as hell at the age of 94+ with a mind of his own. We took him for an interview and a grand tour including the available apartment he could afford. A whirlwind followed; putting his home for over 60 years on the market and moving him into his “new home.” A resident of Plantsville, CT, he knew no one in Middletown. But he was ready for a new adventure, and we were there to ride along with him.
The first memorable event and one of his happiest at HC was celebrating his 95th. We planned a family birthday dinner surprise for him with the help of the kitchen staff (I believe it was with Jennifer). It was PRICELESS!!!! I can see him beaming (and have pics to prove it). There would be one more of these special birthday dinners, but not until he turned 99. Jennifer and her staff once again were superheroes in
accommodating our wishes/requests and making this another unforgettable birthday for our dad.
And through it all, YOU and your caring staff then and now, (Saundra, Cindy, Christine, Henry, Jennifer, Housekeeping, just to name a few) made his life at HC one he never wanted to leave (do you remember how he was worried about having to leave to be sent to a nursing home?)
I learned about all the times he called you, the front desk, or Christine asking for help that sometimes wasn’t part of your/their job description. But you treated him with the utmost respect and dignity and reassured him it would be taken care of. I can’t leave out the friends he made at HC. Especially Bob, his dinner and best buddy, and Jack, his cribbage pal.
He may not have shown it, but Dad truly appreciated the friendship he developed with them (I remember how concerned he was when they contracted Covid). There were other “friends” along the way, but they moved or passed. Unfortunately, this was one of the downfalls for him. He jokingly called HC “Shady Pines,” the last stop before dying.
And the event that brought him the most joy (besides his 100th bday celebration) was being chosen King of Heritage Commons! Lol. He was so humbled, yet proud of the fact that he and Jane were the only ones who held that title for 2 years in a row because Covid shut down everything, including the annual Garden Party.
The circumstances of my dad’s passing have been very difficult for me, but I know in time I will be at peace. Thank you for your kindness, compassion, and understanding during the transition. And thank you and everyone at HC for the love, care, and joy you brought my dad. The “man with a bow tie” lived a long and extraordinary life. I am grateful he was able to spend his last § years at Heritage Commons, and I know he was, too. With Love and Gratitude.
– Charlene T